This is a complaint I hear quite often. A girl is upset that after a few weeks or even months of texting non-stop, her man stops texting as much as he used to. Then she is left wondering if he is no longer interested or if *GASP* he is busy texting someone else.
From personal experience (and through having a lot of male friends), your beau might have another love interest, but most likely that is not the case. Here are the top reasons your boo might have stopped texting you 24/7 and how to deal with it.
1) He is legitimately busy
Jobs, school, and other obligations could make it very difficult to text/call often. So, unfortunately, you will just have to suck it up, buttercup. How would you feel if you had to text non-stop whle getting your nails done with your lady friends or when you are cramming for a big exam? I, for one, would get extremely annoyed. There is nothing worse than someone that won't give you the time you need to achieve your goals. If it really bothers you, you may need to cut your losses and end it before you end up needing a padded room.
2) He is not a huge fan of texting or calling (or he is not a big talker in general)
I have dated men like this. Either they want a face to face conversation every time they talk to you or they are shy, or they simply don't talk much. Tell your Prince Charming that he needs to give you a little bit of time for texting/calling because sometimes you won't be available to have a face to face chat.
3) Men don't like talking as much as women do.
In general, ladies, I have found that texting/calling tends to bore men at times because talking about your latest shopping trip is just not interesting to him. Try talking about things that interest both of you and save your talk about how cute your new hair-do is for your girls. With this type of guy, you will want to text/call him about things that are intersting and keep it short.
4) He is not making you a priority
Sad to say, but in general, this is not a good sign. Is he playing video games for hours and not texting you, but when you two are together he is texing his buddies the whole time? In general, I would let him know that you do not appreciate that. if it does not improve (and stay improved), walk away. people will do to you what you let them get away with.
5) Texting non-stop is getting old
I have had this happen to me before. The relationship had no issues, but I was worried about why he was no longer texing back as fast, or texting as often. I found that it is often just a case of the fact that they no longer are in the getting-to-know-you stage, and are no longer into learning ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING about you. So there is just no need to text like that. Also, after the wooing stage is over, they don't even realize that you want to text all day and night. Men generally do a lot of things during the initial dating stage that they normally don't do. just like after 10 years of marriage there is often less sex. They are perfectly happy, but the constant need for showing that amount of affirmation is no longer there. Try telling him that you still want to text/call often. He may not have even noticed that he stopped texting as much. But you can only say "I miss you" so often before it kind of goes without saying.
6) He just isn't that into you
Sorry to say it, but this is sometimes the case. There really isn't much you can do about it either. If someone isn't into you, you can just walk away. Or, resist the urge to text him and wait to see how long it takes him to say something to you. My rule of thumb is this: if after not texting him, it takes him over 3 days to say something, he just isn't that into you. Oh well, move on.
Most of the time, the amount of times a day your hunny texts/calls sas nothing about how much they like and care about you. But if you are worried, tell him. But there is nothing less attractive than a woman that you ned to text 200 times a day. Most men just don't have the time (or attention span) to make that sustainable. And if they do, I would say they aren't doing anything in their life and that is just not cute. But if you can't even squeeze a good night out of them...Thats not a good sign.
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